February 14, 2005
Yes, it is.
It's Valentine's day. Have a nice one.
Wash the dishes for your lady, and don't point it out to her, like some eager Labrador Retriever seeking approval.
Have dinner on the table, even if it's just a pizza you ordered online and had delivered. And get her favorite toppings, not your own, for once.
Change the sheets, even if you don't think they need it. Turn them back nicely, and don't point them out to her.
Take a shower, or a long bath, and have the bathroom picked up and ready for her to take one too. Don't make her step over your shit-stained drawers to get to the tub.
And don't maul her. Just be tender and attentive and love her. If it goes further, fine, but just don't act like that was the main reason for the day.
Treat her the way you would if you wanted her to marry you all over again, as though your whole future depended on it. Assume that this could be your last night together. Love her like you believe you'll never love again for the rest of your life.
Want to get her a nice present? What, haven't you been paying attention?
No big stupid balloon, no long stemmed roses, no satin box of candies that no one really likes, no sexy lingerie; just be her lover and her friend with no expectations and no demands. No piece of shit from the counter of the gas station, or plastic wrapped flower from the grocery store.
Brush a stray lock of hair from her forehead, and trace your finger down her cheek to her chin, and look into her eyes and say nothing.
Pick up the telephone and call her to say you were thinking about her. Not about tonight, or about what you want, but about her, how she feels, how she smells, how she looks up at you when you're close to her. Just let her feel loved, wanted, valued, cherished.
Happy Valentine Day.
Wow, now that's perfect! I'm sending my hubby over here right now....;-)
Posted by: texasbug at February 14, 2005 07:43 PMWhat a beautiful present. Hmmm. Wish my guy would've thought of that! Course, at least he called and said Happy V day to me. He's deployed so I can give him leeway. I know him though and I just think I might copy what you've written and save it for next year! Might come in handy.
Posted by: Toni at February 15, 2005 03:19 PMAfter reading that, I really miss my Valentine.
Sweet trip down memory land, Mama. Thanks.
Well, I hear ya. What's the difference between Valentines day and "Sweetest Day" if it ain't where the end justifies the means? And even then, whats the difference. Isn't that one of the purposes of the day, to, as Pepe' LePue says, Make Loooove. Nice presents, Nice talkin', special consideration, and in the end... you all that now me know what I was 'bout to type, but in respect to Mamma, I'll leave it to you all to fill in the blanks there...
I'm just sayin'. Valentines day works both ways don't it? ;)
Wonderful sentiments but I would argue against approaching a relationship (especially a continuing one) without expectations. If there are no expectations, how can they be reached or bested? Maybe "no unreasonable expectations" would work better.
Posted by: Jim at February 22, 2005 03:10 PM